What is MenSensual about?

All too often, the distinction between emotionality, sensuality, eroticism and sex is misunderstood. We set out to look for one thing when we actually crave another. MenSensual strives to clarify these areas of mental and physical experience and enable students to seek out and experience encounters with their partners on a more conscious level.

MenSensual’s philosophy is informed by four types of experience:

• Emotionality: feeling comfortable with expressing feelings in a non-sexual way. That expression may be verbal, but also through other means like touch, movement, facial expression, etc.
  
  
• Sensuality: evoking emotions in others through verbal or physical expression, involving a hint of mystery, desire, erotic innuendo. Think: "flirting".
  
  
• Eroticism: taking the sensual aspect further and openly expressing desires with the intent to ultimately engage in sex with your partner. Think "foreplay".
  
  
• Sexuality: Well, you know all about that already, right? This is the culmination of emotional readiness, sensual awakening and erotic desire.

What's in it for you?

Maybe you just want to learn new ways to be with your existing partner, or feel better prepared for your next encounter with a potential significant other in the future? Are you shy around other people or uncertain about yourself or how to deal with certain situations? Are you afraid of saying no for fear of being rejected?

I invite you to read the above paragraph in a business or family context and you'll find that the same applies across the board. Being more conscious about your actions in a sensual context sets you up for more awareness when dealing with people in other contexts, be it in private life or at work, dealing with colleagues or customers.

After just one experience you may discover parts of yourself you never knew were there, awaken feelings or thoughts you want to explore further, or make you more aware of what is going on with you and your partner and other people.

Spirituality is an important part of MenSensual's teachings. If you have ever wondered if there is more to life than your daily routine, this could be a way to find out some things you never suspected you were ready for.

Meditation practice may not seem like the most logical way to expand your knowledge of your own body and sensuality. Nothing could be further from the truth: it is actually the perfect way to take a good look at your emotions and physical desires separate from each other and understand them better!

What to expect from MenSensual?

MenSensual teaches and promotes conscious sensuality through techniques that are inspired by teachings of Western neo-tantra (particularly Osho and Barbara Carellas) and traditional Indian practices. These techniques may involve any or all of the following: touch, breath, sound, meditation, visualisation, movement, spiritual teachings and others.

Conscious sensuality involves being at ease with your own emotions, beliefs and sensual experiences. MenSensual believes that the ability to experience yourself consciously is a crucial prerequisite to being able to share intimacy with someone else.

Whenever you engage with another person in a meaningful, sensual way, you are confronted with your own personal hang-ups. Long-held beliefs about your sense of masculinity, your sexual identity or what you consider intimacy might stand in your way. Questions like “Am I masculine enough if I experience touch this way?” or “Does this make me feel less of a man?” are common amongst men who are uncertain of their own sensuality.

Exploring your boundaries

• Does it feel uncomfortable to be touched, yet you crave for this connection?
• Do you have a hard time accepting and loving your body?
• Do you experience yourself as an erotic, sexual being?

Whether you feel disheartened, hopeless, disconnected or broken, I believe there is always a way forward. It takes courage to look at stumbling blocks to pleasure and a fulfilling sexuality, but no obstacle is insurmountable.

MenSensual offers experiences and workshops to engage with your own senses and experience sensuality in ways that help you overcome such hang-ups and boundaries. This may allow you to expand your limits to include more and different techniques in your encounters with partners. This is not just about becoming “a better lover”, but to enjoy those encounters more, and share that joy to your partner in the process.

Discovering your needs and communicating them

• Do you know what it is you want from your partner?
• Do you find it difficult to ask for it?
• Are you ashamed of asking for what you want?

Telling your partner what you really wish for, what your true desires are at any given moment, can be challenging. Especially if you are not used to expressing such wishes or you are not even properly aware of what you really want.

All experiences allow you to explore potential new avenues of sensuality and how you can find your true erotic self, and tell your partner where you want to go next. It’s not primarily about having sex (again) with yourself and others, but getting to know yourself as the gorgeous sensual and erotic being you are.

Sharing the gift of conscious intimacy with your partner

Exploring your sensual needs on your own is a goal in itself, but ultimately you will want to share that intimacy with your partner. Exploring nurturing sensuality with your partner and introducing new things can be a nice change of pace. Be aware, however, that in many cases new additions to your intimate practice will need proper discussion ahead of time.

• Give yourself permission to talk about sex!
• Shine a light on and find a voice for your wishes and desires!
  
• Take gentle steps to reconnect and reclaim real intimacy!

Learning these things on your own and passing the knowledge on to your partner can be a nice way to spice things up, of course. But why not bring your partner along and exercise with him right away? Not only will you both experience something new together, but you will be in the wonderful position that you won’t have to explain much when you try it again later!

What is MenSensual NOT about?

If you are looking for an escort service, you’ll have to look elsewhere.

We’d be sad to see you go away, though: MenSensual is all about teaching new ways to experience sensuality and erotic touch on your own, or with your partner.

'MenSensual' is managed by Tilo Flache t/a MenSensual