One of the big issues about going to a tantra-inspired activity – be it in a large group of strangers or with your partner of 12 years – is the build-up of expectations before the class or workshop even starts. When I talk about what I do, I tend to come across two clearly defined groups of guys: either they have no clue at all what tantra is about (and that is brilliant) or they have clear (if mostly erroneous) ideas of what will happen. While I like the enthusiasm of the former, I sometimes struggle with the latter as they often expect things that are not likely to happen at all: more often than not, they expect an orgy or something very much like it. I blame neo-tantra and especially Osho (in his Pune incarnation) for that somewhat skewed view on what tantra is supposed to be. Setting this potentially false expectation aside, both aforementioned groups have one thing in common: in the running up towards the class, people wonder about what is going to happen. They often even make decisions on what they want to happen and maybe even what they do NOT want to happen. Interestingly, most of what is part of tantra happens much better if you just go with the flow, let it happen without thinking too much about it. It’s easier on yourself if you just do what you are told for those 90 minutes or so. It’s easier on the teacher as well, of course. Nothing will happen without your consent, of course, so just keep an open mind and relax. In the worst case, you’ll experience some things you never have done before. Then again, you may have an amazing time and maybe even want to explore more. be open to the experience
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