Similarly, envy tends to come up when someone owns something you desire, making you feel like you are not trying enough. Sadly, that guy with the big shiny car only has that one thing to show off and present an image of success, while at the same time he starves himself to death in order to pay off that same car that is far above his pay grade.
What many of us don’t realise: the image someone presents is often nothing more than that: an image they project for their own internal reasons. The trouble starts when envy sets in at the receiving end of that image, because we take everything that is presented at face value, without wanting or being in a position to question what is being shown. And that leads to envy over something that is – more often than not – far from real. That build-up of envy also points towards an internal process within ourselves: we desire something that others present as desirable, but do we really want or need this thing? Are we being led to assume that we do, or is it a real desire? One way out of envy is simple: find out what you REALLY desire and stop being envious of anything else that may not even be on your Christmas list to start with. The same applies to conscious sensuality, of course. We often see people engage in ways we cannot wait to experience, and we get envious because it doesn’t ever quite happen in that way for us. I have found that it’s wiser to let go of such expectation and stick with what comes, what you already have, and what makes sense for you. That big car may be just as much of a burden for you, that thoughtful caress may come with verbal abuse at other times. The envy is directed solely at what comes across as good and lovely, but it clearly neglects any downside that is part of a full picture. Envy is about the unreachable, the dream, the wishful thinking. The best thing to do when you realise you develop feelings of envy is to take a step back and find out why you are envious rather than going on feeling inadequate or needy.
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