Let’s be honest, most sexual encounters you engage in tend to be mutual activities, meaning that you’ll be giving and receiving pretty much simultaneously. Many of us even feel bad if they don’t reciprocate directly. Even if you don’t believe that this is you, think back for a moment: there most certainly was a moment in the past when you were enjoying your partner’s administrations so intensely that you just relaxed and took it in. What a glorious feeling that was, right? And yet, I bet you also had that nagging little voice in the back of your brain violently knocking on the “portal of consciousness” trying to make you feel guilty about being selfish for doing this. You fought back trying to stay in the moment even so, but in the end you may have given in to the urge to become more active. And then that wonderful moment of ecstasy was over. Am I right? Now take a step back and imagine yourself in your partner’s shoes for a moment. Do you really believe that he didn’t enjoy giving you pleasure, seeing your enjoyment of what he was doing? Did he expect you to do anything but be in the moment and enjoy? Probably not: his mind was in another place altogether: he was ‘in giving mode’. Sometimes, a cuddle session on the sofa can go on for a long time, and be limited to one partner stroking the other’s hair for half an hour. Or, think of another all-time favourite: the foot massage! Those are no different from anything more sensual or sexual that might be happening in the bedroom or anywhere else. It’s about giving something simply because you want to do it. Once you slip into that mode of giving freely to a receptive partner, there is nothing else you want to do, nowhere else you want to be. You are embracing the divine feminine and experience it to the fullest. In a way, the giving partner is as ecstatic as the receiving one, but he is in a different place altogether. Indulging your partner can be every much as pleasurable as being on the receiving end of their administrations, and there is no expectation of you to give anything back, really. giving can be as powerful as receiving
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