It’s a certainty of life: sometimes you feel stuck. In the best of worlds our life’s path goes forward, in a straight line for those who are mightily driven, in a sort of wobbly line for those who occasionally lack focus. The important thing is to keep moving forward and progress. Standing still is not an option as a rule, but it is necessary on occasion to reset your compass and move in the right direction again. When you get stuck it feels like you are running in circles, which is unlike standing still, even though the outcome looks similar. There is a silent activity in running in circles, it makes you feel tired without apparent reason and gets you nowhere although you believe you have been actively pursuing your path all the time. At such moments it is imperative to take a deep breath, stop running and reassess where YOU are right now and find the direction to go towards your goal. Distinguish between being stuck and standing still. Those are two very different things: standing still allows you to assess without immediate action, being stuck indicates action that achieves nothing. This holds true for life in general, but also for tantra, sensuality, meditation, interaction with others, love, sex, … you name it. Take meditation, for example: the whole point is to stand still and observe – a far cry from actively trying to achieve something, right? Or look at sex: frantically trying out different positions in order to find the one that pleases the other most is counterproductive, it makes the whole thing appear too much work and leaves no time to enjoy whatever may come by itself. If you don’t let go of expectations, the result will ultimately defeat the purpose. Of course, it’s important to keep an eye on the intended outcome, but in the majority of cases you cannot force an outcome to suddenly appear (admittedly, this sometimes works in business or your personal life, but often at the detriment of your own wellbeing or any personal interactions with your peers). Finding out where your goal is and then letting things happen in a way that brings you closer is often the better strategy. This is especially true for tantra-related activities. While ‘fake it till you make it’ can be useful to define what the outcome should be, I don’t subscribe to that particular school of thought. Ultimately, your body knows what to do and when to do it. sometimes “wait and see” is the only valid option
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