I’m excited to announce the launch of MenSensual, a venture that has been on my mind for a long time. Ever since I started on my spiritual path I have tried to incorporate it into what goes for ‘regular’ life, and I have found that this is very hard to achieve, but also very simple in some ways. Let me explain: I jumped into a tantric adventure when I first became aware that I needed a change from my nine to five job in a corporate environment. That sounds like a luxury project of someone who makes a lot of money, but it wasn’t: I was just an employee sitting in my office space with just enough salary to keep me going for fear of losing what financial advantages I had accumulated over many a year. My first encounter with tantra lasted less than a week, but the experience changed my outlook on the life. Not only did I have moments of pure sensual joy, but also instances of spiritual clarity I never experienced before. I started to ask what I now perceive as the right questions in the face of ‘regular’ life. “Is THIS what I want my life to be until I retire?”, “Why do I have to bend myself into odd shapes to fit into this environment?” and “Isn’t there a more personally satisfying way to go about my life?” Don’t get me wrong: I did like my job and derived a lot of satisfaction from it, but it felt hollow and temporary, whereas those new thoughts and questions seemed to point towards a healthier, more personally fulfilling path. So I quit my job, upped sticks, moved house/country and started working for myself: not an easy step for someone who values security. I had to take risks and kick my own butt to get me to move out of that comfort trap and into a place that – at first – felt like it lacked balance. That feeling of imbalance lasted only for a short time before I found a solid footing. My business took off slowly, but steadily. So where had tantra and ‘the new me’ gone? They were still there, of course, as I had maintained my meditation practice all through the process of preparing the move, getting settled and building my business. At first I focused on doing things that I felt confident doing, things I KNEW I could do because they were similar to my old job, but then I realised that I had a lot more to offer than that and took yet another leap of faith about a year into my new life: I shifted from working for small business to working with residential customers. That was the best decision I ever made! It showed me that I possessed the people skills I denied myself to acknowledge I could possibly have. Once I had recognised that little nugget of wisdom, I went from strength to strength and became more creative and forthright in my work with business clients. When it felt appropriate, I started to incorporate aspects of physicality, meditation, mindfulness, breathing, music and holding space into my business. And it works. This being said, it still felt like I was holding back, and I understood that this tantric/spiritual injection into my business was not enough to keep the momentum going for myself. I decided to stretch myself yet a little more: and this has led to this latest brainchild born from my continuous development: in the past I adapted what I had learned to help me on the work floor, MenSensual is meant to pass on what I have learned to others who might benefit from my own experience. MenSensual is also a step forward on a very specific level: it is one more step towards a more physical expression of spirituality and physicality in tantra. I have always been very much about physical touch, a quality that is mostly discouraged in modern society. Unless you are young, or interacting with close family or friends, it is seen as an intrusion into someone’s personal space. I beg to differ in that respect. I have found that most people appreciate a level of physical contact, albeit very limited and subject to clear intentions. Gently putting a hand on a shoulder, making eye contact for that little longer, being appreciative through words and actions,… those things can make all the difference. I intend to keep developing in this direction, and to be a proponent of physical touch and connection to those who are ready to listen to the message. My own brand of sensuality involves more than physical touch, though: I intend to create a crisp container that allows you to let go of the ‘regular’ life for a while, and pick up skills that allow you to recreate that space for yourself in the fullness of time. Let’s see how this works out for you. And for me. make free time into quality time for yourself
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