Transience of experience

If you are familiar with going into a sensual space and the experiences it brings, you may have found out already that whatever you feel at those moments, as ecstatic and blissful it may be, the feeling evaporates rather too quickly afterwards.

To some degree that is the nature of the beast: ecstasy can be expanded to a longer period of time than most people realise, but there comes an end to it nevertheless! Depending on who you are and how experienced you are in tantric practice, certain elements may linger for a while longer, but eventually they will fade. That could be a couple of minutes, or it could be several months down the line. Regular practice helps, of course, to replenish the energies involved and to hang on to them for longer.

Not surprisingly, the purely sexual aspects of tantra tend to be especially short-lived: we are, after all, used to a sharp drop in personal energy right after a climax. Nature of the beast, right? When it comes to erotic aspects, our mind tends to hang on to that imagery for longer, and as for the sensual and sensory elements … if you have ever had your skin tingle from that heightened sense of connection, you’ll know that this can stay with you for quite a long time. AND it can be reawakened easily if you know how.

The ephemeral nature of tantric experience is part of the deal. There is a lot of practice involved to deprogram how our sexual mind works, and to make it understand that there is more than physicality to making a connection with the other person. Looking at this idea from a more spiritual point of view, that ‘other person’ could easily be ‘another being’ or ‘the other’ in general. Tantra is, after all, a spiritual practice.

don’t hang on to it, experience it and remember