Teaching and practicing tantra and conscious sensuality brings with it a level of responsibility. As a teacher, I have responsibility to provide what feels like a safe space for exploration of new ways to connect, but also to ensure physical and mental health of my students. As a student, you have a responsibility to your partner. But ultimately, the biggest responsibility for both teacher and students is to be mindful of yourself, your needs, dreams, wishes and boundaries. When we are able to take full responsibility for any and all of our emotions, we give our partners and ourselves the chance to drop our guard and open those boundaries that are holding us back. Of course, this is valid not only in classes, or when you are with a partner, but in society at large. Responsibility comes in many forms. Taking responsibility for your own reactions and – when prompted – being able to voice your own sensibilities is one of the most important responsibilities you have. You must become aware of our actual boundaries, hang-ups, limitations, fears, wishes, dreams and fantasies before we even engage with another person. Just think: how could you possibly communicate any of the above to someone else if you have never given these things a second thought on your own. Not only is it a bad idea to tell people about such things on the go, while you are in the process of figuring it out, but this also shows a level of disrespect towards yourself AND your partner in the practice. Make sure you decide what you think you are prepared to do, and what you would probably not want to do. Sounds vague? Well, such things are usually not written in stone, and often depend on the partner you are working with. You may not be ready to give a massage to one man, but would happily do this to another, right? Your boundaries change, but the responsibility to be clear and respectful remain the same. have a base for discussion, yet allow yourself to expand your horizons
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