One of the basic tenets of anything to do with tantra – and indeed tactile sensuality in general – is that there is ‘no such thing as going too slowly’. It is surprisingly difficult to do things slowly. And it’s also surprisingly hard to not enjoy something that is done to you in a very deliberate, slow-paced manner. Part of the joy comes from a sense of suspense: we think we know where this is going, but at the same time we cannot wait for it to happen. Expectations keep building, and the mind goes all over the place wondering what will come next. This mental overdrive has a useful side-effect: it takes our mind off everything else. Besides this purely mental experience, there is a physical side to this, of course. Another source of joy is what your body will start doing when you slow down all the way: even your skin is perfectly able of anticipation. Have you ever had goose bumps from a slight breeze moving the hairs on your forearm just a little bit? Didn’t you wish for that breeze to come back and make you shudder once again? This is also a perfect example of something happening unexpectedly. This is not the usual way of experiencing these tactile sensations, though. More commonly you would react to something that is done intentionally, either by yourself or someone else. Letting a bit of sand slide down your shins can be wonderful in itself, but if someone else is doing it when you don’t expect it can be sensational! It is entirely possible to create a mental bubble that only contains yourself and get your mind to drift off into infinity. Many of us experience these moments while we listen to a babbling brook with our eyes closed, or watching the wind create waves in a field of long grass. The trick is simple: take your mind off everything else and slow down to a point where only one thing matters: the water, the wind, or the sand slipping down your shin. That mental bubble need not be a solitary one, though. You can choose to include a partner in this, and add more of an unpredictability element to the game: just like the wind moving the hairs on your forearm, your partner could make this happen for you! The above examples are common events in most people’s lives, and we tend to think of them as exceptional, relaxing, stress-free and enjoyable moments. MenSensual sessions intend to create such moments for you. always be ready for the unexpected
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